Theory of Relativity

We read so many theories in our school and college days. But the only theory that stands out of all and  we  apply in our lives unintentionally is “The theory of Relativity”. This theory is killing our happiness daily because we don’t apply it properly. If we get it right then there are people nearby us which are ready to kill our happiness..

I got 96 marks in Maths in 10^th standard boards…  “Oh man  he got 100 “ ….

Wohoo…I got a job… “Common she got a job which pays three times more” …

I got in top 15 B schools of country… My friend called me up and said “You know rahul…dat dumb guy got through IIM , you remember  he was such a loser  “.

Acquaintances come and ask  “ Which company you got through and whats the package “ … “ Ohh…you know my maasi’s brother in law’s son did MBA from this college and is earning so much today .. “ 

First point to notice is that in all the above incidents, I had achieved something but the theory of relativity was applied by either me or someone else and tried to make my achievement look so so insignificant.

The second point is there must had been someone who had failed in Maths, someone who was still unplaced, someone who failed to get through a B school, someone who had got a much lower package than me . In all at that point of time there was someone who was dying to be in position I was.

It is important to realize how to use this theory of relativity in life. Apply this theory to both the ends of spectrum. See someone who didn’t get what u have achieved and feel happiness on your achievement , at the same time see someone who did better than you to get motivation to do better in future. Don’t cry over what you didn’t achieve and also don’t boast of what you have achieved.

Value what you got. Value what you have right now.

Be happy that you have your family and friends with you . Right now there is someone in this world who is lying on road with no one to help him .

Be happy that you are standing some feet above the ground. You are blessed to be alive. There is someone in this world whose life just ended abruptly and is being buried in ground.

I feel am blessed to be living such a good life. Am writing my thoughts using my laptop sitting in an AC room , drinking cola and having chips, and sharing it with my close friends . There is someone who is working in heat with the pressure of earning enough money for the day to feed his family.

We all are blessed. But only those are happy who realize how blessed they are.

You Complete Me

One of the few poems I ever wrote in my life :) :) .

  

  We started as strangers,moved on to friends,
  kept in touch by making all the rules bend.
  Both respected and valued each other thoughts,
  this ensured that we never argued and fought.
  Felt very special everytime when we were talking,
  it was like as if in a boulevard we were walking.
  I could feel her hugs, kisses and smiles,
  it didnt matter the distance between us was how many miles.
  We shared everyday our each happiness and sorrow,
  used to converse as if  there was no tomorrow.
  Her happiness meant to me the world,
  I couldnot see her even a little troubled.
  Silence between us was most soothing,
  We could feel  our hearts conversing.
  To again start talking she used to say I love you with a blush,
  those moments i could feel  blood moving in my veins in a rush.
  One fine day i conversed  with my heart,
  realized she was its very big part.
  There was no looking back after that day,
  am now living in a dream world hoping to be with her someday someway.

  

  10th Feb, 2009

  Infosys campus, Mysore

Sub Conscious Mind

You never forget anything, you just stop thinking about it…

It was a special day for him. He just achieved one of his dreams. A dream he was chasing for last so many years. After a long time he had something to smile for. Last few years had not been good for him. Nevertheless, he was fighting, fighting with the world and most importantly fighting with himself, fighting with the devil inside him who was not allowing him to get back to normal self.

That moment was special for him. He was on cloud number nine. He felt his life was perfect that moment. He won everything including his past. For a change, he had a clear mind, a mind without any prejudice.

 He was calling and texting everyone close to him and telling them about his success. Suddenly while typing a name to send a text in his mobile he realized he did not have any number saved by that name. He typed a name that his subconscious mind told him to. A name that was no longer a part of his life, it was a part of his memories. A name that once used to echo with his every heartbeat but today was non-existent.

He was just smiling seeing the name in his mobile phone. He realized that he had not forgotten her. He had just stopped thinking about her and locked the memories in sub conscious mind. This took a lot of time, a couple of years and a lot of concentration but he succeeded in doing it.

However, the subconscious mind was not an easy opponent to defeat. It started attaching her name with memories like songs, their hangout places, her college etc. There were so many such moments and places. Initially this ploy of subconscious mind worked but then with time he started ignoring and then eventually stopped listening to it.

From nowhere her phone number was in his mind. It was just a matter of dialing it and then just seeing what happens. For a moment, it seemed the subconscious mind was winning the battle. Then he realized he had done this mistake in past. He had lost these kind of battles so many times and ended up in agony. He decided he was not going to repeat the mistake. The smile was just getting bigger. The special day was getting more special. J J

Who is more Important ??

When she was a kid, her parents used to keep an eye on who her friends were, with whom she used to hang out with. Whenever they felt a need, they used to tell her that this person is not good so stay away from him. She always listened to what they said and religiously followed their command.

With time, they stopped doing this. They gave her the freedom to take her own choices and learn from mistakes. They trusted her to the core and never interfered in her life.

In her early 20s, she dated a guy and with time realized he is the one she always dreamed of. But she was scared that the relationship wont go the distance because of certain reasons (family wont approve/age difference/caste etc ) . She loved that guy and the love created a hope in her that everything will fall in place at the right time and they both will get married.

She had many guy friends and one of them was her best friend. Her boyfriend was possessive about her. He asked her to keep a distance to her guy friends including her best friend whom she knew for a long time. It was a difficult decision to take. She had to decide what is more important to her, friendship or love. She did whatever he said. She left her friends for him.   She decided in the favor of love.

After a couple of years, her parents got to know about her boyfriend. They met him and decided against him. She cried a lot, tried her best to convince her parents but all in vain. She did not agree to the reasons her parents said in rejecting him. She argued that her happiness is with him so nothing else is more important. Her parents in reply argued that they have seen and experienced life and know that in future things wont work out and she wont stay happy with him. They fought a lot. Her boyfriend also tried his level best but nothing could change her parents mind.

So then came the second important decision in her life. Who is more important , her parents or her boyfriend ???????

A short Real Story

I remember that day clearly. My bestest friend, my lifeline introduced me to a person I think around 4 years back. His introductory line startled me a bit, he said “ Rahul meet him , he is a guy I idolize , I love his optimist approach in life. Everytime I have some problem or am feeling little sad, I go up to him and he gives me so many beautiful perspectives about life and my issues that I smile and forget them. “

I felt little jealous of him. I will put it as human nature. J Then I thought if he is saying so highly about him he must be worth that much. Therefore, I started talking to him more. We became good friends. I learnt a lot from him. Oh yeah he was an optimist person. Not at all scared of life. We had many things in common, except a few like he never chased girls , oh no no…he was straight. :P

 His life revolved completely around his college guys gang, his family, studies, playing football, cricket , volleyball. He was good both in studies and in sports. He was always smiling. He loved his family and close friends a lot , a complete altruistic person. I remember he used to call everyone with “ aap” and was very polite.

He finished his graduation with us. Slowly slowly his small little world started to expand. His professional and personal life made him meet new people . He got busy in his life  and we in ours. He had no time for his passion, sports. We could not catch up regularly. He called me up one day, he was ecstatic , he was in love and had a girlfriend. My bestest friend and I were very happy and at same time little surprised , he was never after girls and he ended up with a girlfriend and we were still single.

The last to last time I met him was around 2 years ago. My bestest friend had come to Delhi for vacation , I had got admission in B school in Delhi and he was also here. He was trying hard to get into a B school. We both were very surprised to see how much he had changed. We could not feel the optimism and happiness that we always used to feel being around him. We asked him what is going wrong. We got to know he lost his girlfriend, then job and hadn’t got into a B school. He lived at a distance to his family and friends. He had lost purpose in his life.

We started reminding him about him. His optimist approach in life that we were a fan of. The way he used to speak, his politeness and altruistic nature. However, he did not listen to us. He kept asking one question repeatedly “If I was so good person then why bad happened to me”. We had no answer to it. We took him for counseling. He came out with one learning “Give time to time “ . He learnt to control his mind and heart. Yes, he wasn’t still the usual himself but he was in control of his body. He wasn’t smiling but he stopped crying after every 15 minutes. He started sleeping in nights. Started meeting friends.

Luckily he got admission in a B school. My bestest friend went  to US for higher studies and I too got busy in my MBA. We all three were in touch. He was showing signs of little improvement. The world had changed him for good. He was now stronger person. He started dealing with things and problems maturely. He was calm and composed when things didn’t go his way, his next break up den next. He didn’t shed even a single tear.

Last month I again got a chance to meet him. I was so happy to see him. His usual smile was back, I felt same kind of optimism. But then I was amazed. I saw his other side. He was actually two different personalities. One for his close ones and one for rest of the world. He had adapted himself to live life in two different worlds. One his small inner dream world which consisted of his closed ones , the other one was outer world. I realized getting into his inner world is really difficult, he doesn’t allow anyone to enter it easily.

I called up my friend in US and told him about it. He also said that he had a telephonic conversation with him and he too felt the same. We both are really happy for him now. J J

He has come a long way in last 3-4 years and today is looking forward to life with same optimism and happiness. He is not the same but I think he has changed for good. He is now very much ready to face the world and at same time is almost back to the same loving and caring person for his close ones. J

I love him a lot, I talk to him regularly now, and he makes me smile and feel happy about life. J J Thanks a lot for being there with me. J

Marriage talks

Oh yeah , it happened at my home too. Today morning 7 o clock was the auspicious time. No no my parents didn’t wake me up to talk about it , It was just I slept early yesterday night so was up early.

Well frankly I wasn’t expecting a talk on this issue so soon. More so because dad already knew my future plans, we have had a conversation about this few months back, my short term goal  of going to US for MBA and work in next 3-4 years. But Mom had no idea about this, I think dad was too scared to tell her about my plans.

But the other half of me wanted to have a talk on this issue. This is because I overheard my mom on phone couple of months back telling her friend that Rahul has a girlfriend so I need not search a girl for her. I was stunned to hear this because I had told my sisters to convey it to my mom that am single. This is because they were the ones who couple of years back without asking me  went to her n said that am going around with someone. So I told them clear things out now. As expected my sisters didn’t do this. So I went to my sisters and asked why didn’t they tell this important thing to mom and I got a strange reply “ Rahul tere chal chalan single vale hai hi nahi , u go out for couple parties, night outs , new cities,always chatting on phone or on laptop , mumma papa kuch nahi kehte sirf ye soch kar ki u r in some serious relationship” .

Phew at that time..i thought ok if this is keeping my parents and me happy then let it be . hehe….

So today the conversation started with dad asking me “ rahul we have got some rishtey for you in last couple of weeks , so what shall we do “. I stared at dad and he got my point, so he said mom wanted to ask this.

I said that I need to settle down in career and plus have to go for Exec MBA , so I need around 5 years.

Mom was shocked to hear this and said “ 5 saal to bahut hote hai..itna time na na….”.

I felt am on a negotiation table that point of time.

She continued “ U get married in 3 years and then take her also to US and do studies n all there and then come back “ . Dad also nodded in affirmation. I also nodded just to finish the topic off.

As I was about to get up Dad fired a bouncer . “ Rahul are we actually supposed to search a girl for you “.

“Woaaah…mom n dad u r supercool.” i said to myself in mind.

I said “Yes you have to , but start the search only after 2 years. There is no point in searching a girl right now because if some parents are looking for a alliance for their daughter they will like to marry her in max 1 year. So wait for couple of years.”

I thought I made a lot of sense there. But my parents seemed puzzled. I said “ kya hua “ .

Dad replied “ U serious , we have to look for a girl “ . Mom continued “ Hum to soch rahe the … “ .

I intervened “ Yes mumma papa you have to do this hard work for my marriage “ J J

I was There

I am a big sports fan. However, if there is a choice between watching cricket and football I will go for football definitely. So, I was not that excited about cricket WC to think about going to see matches live in stadium.

I went to see India vs Netherlands match just for one reason, to see the god of cricket Sachin Tendulkar bat. Yes like any other Indian I am a big fan of him. I have never seen anyone in my life who inspite of being such a big personality still behave in so humble manner on the field and to media. After watching that match in Kotla I came back happy that I saw him bat live in an international match.

WC matches continued and I watched them on TV , saw quarter final with my parents at home. After that match got over , I saw 100 updates on FB related to next match India vs Pak. I switched on TV and it seemed that there is nothing else happening in the world and they just have one thing to focus on India Vs Pak match. Everyone was talking about that match and it just took one day for the excitement of that match to take control of me.

It was very difficult to get a ticket and I knew it will take something special to get one. How I managed to get it, well the answer is “ Guanxi “ in Chinese and “ Jugaad” in Hindi. Of course money mattered  but there were many I know who were ready to shell out a fortune but had no clue how to get a ticket sitting here in Delhi.

Inside the stadium the atmosphere was breathtaking. It was like a festival. Not even a single empty seat in stadium. It was so touching when national anthem was played. Everyone in stadium was singing the anthem, I felt the beautiful patriotic feeling that moment. Once match started ,there were Indian flags everywhere, people were dancing whenever India hit a boundary and at a fall of each Pakistan wicket it was mind-boggling. I had never felt that kind of atmosphere ever. And the DJ was amazing, Kotla DJ please learn something from the Mohali DJ. It played amazing mix of Punjabi, patriotic , Hindi and English songs and we danced a lot on them.

I will never ever forget this day. I can say that it has been the best experience of my life till now. I will cherish it for life. I am sure I will tell my grand children that I was there in stadium for WC 2011 semi final between India and Pakistan and we won the match.

I understand now what is meant by electrifying atmosphere , I understand now why India vs Pak is just not another cricket match.I was one among the 30 thousand people singing "Maa tujhe salam"after India Won and it is still echoing in my ears .YES I was there in Mohali stadium and it was JUST AMAZING.. :) :)