Apna Sapna Money Money ????

I think it is the trickiest question : How much important is money ?

The first line that comes into my mind is Mastercard’s “ There are some things money cant buy, for everything else there is Mastercard”. Yeah, seriously it sums up all.

With money you can buy everything, but you cant buy time , love, peace, life. But yes you can buy lot other stuff from money that can compensate for all these.

I remember I asked my dad this question around 3-4 years back that what is the value of money for him. He gave me an answer which I really liked,  he said for him he has enough money if I ask him for something genuine and important to buy and he has enough money to fulfil my those needs.

He further said that there is no end to the needs, but one should have enough money to fulfill the needs in limit. Say for e.g. if you want a car, that is fine. I will buy you one but if you ask for a very expensive car I will not buy you one and I will not feel sad or bad about not having enough money for that.

Dad I love and respect you. J

I understood from that day that money is important and at same time its human nature of always wanting more of it. It is good if it motivates you to put in more effort but at same time one should be happy in that pursuit. Feel blessed if you have enough money to fulfill your small wishes and basic needs. J

I understand the world is crazy. I have not found even a single person till now in last 10 months except my family whose first question about my job is ‘ Are you happy in it’. Everytime I meet someone , the first question asked is ‘ So how much you earn’. I think the perception is that happiness is directly proportional to money. Sick mentality!!!!

Last weekend had to rush to delhi for some personal commitments. And I  felt blessed that I did not had to think twice before booking air tickets just for a weekend. Add to it , it was a priceless moment when my mom n dad opened the door at midnight  and saw me standing outside the gate. They had no clue that I was coming and were so happily surprised to see me.

I remember someone telling me couple of weeks back , “ Am sure you will earn loads of money in future, but what is important is how much you enjoy and feel happy during the path to achieve that”.

The “Almost” perfect

Around an year back , I wrote that my life was “almost” perfect . (http://unknownrahul.blogspot.in/2011/03/dreams.html)

I think if I see from a positive side, I can say that yes, my life is still almost perfect. In last one year, the negative has been that am staying away from my family, but then to counter it the positive is am making good progress in professional life and everyone including my family is happy about it.

Quoting myself from last post : I want everything and everyone back. I want to feel the perfect life again. I miss that feel. I want to say again the line I once said in December 2008, “My life is perfect ,because god and you are with me”.

I don’t know if am asking for a lot. I remember writing in some post that “if its perfect then its not life, it’s a dream”.

I guess that is the human nature, never satisfied. Always looking for more. The same is with me , hoping for that perfect life.

Till then I guess I should enjoy my “Almost” perfect life, thanks to my family and some friends.

P.S. A sincere effort to write a positive post with a hope that it will act as a good start to the month of April after a deadly February and a bad March. J

The Circle of Life

I remember I cried a lot when I failed to clear the DCE entrance test. I always knew I was never an IIT material, was too bad in Science subjects but somehow was optimistic to do well in DCE. That can be put as my first setback in life. I felt as if everything ended ..blah blah blah.. Now I realize that was very small thing.

What makes me think now that it was a very small thing is experience. I have seen worse times than that, have seen others experiencing a tougher and worse life than me. This has made me look at things in a wider horizon and made me understand that whatever the situation is, it will pass.

There is no substitute for experience. As humans, we are bound to make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them. Life is unpredictable, things turn all of sudden. The important thing is to remember how we dealt with the twist in past and how can we deal with it in a better way this time.

It is truly remarkable what experience teaches you. Today I see myself almost at the same situation as I was around three years back. And I wonder how much in a better way I could have dealt the situation then as am doing now. I made the situation worse for myself then, kept on thinking why things went wrong for me. However now I thank god that I had faced a similar situation in the past and now I am dealing with it in the best possible way by not allowing it to affect my life.

I guess the famous line “ jo hota hai achhe ke liye hota hai “ is aptly fitting in this context.

Who is playing on the Other Side

                                               Zindagi Hai Dhuaa To Kya,

                                               Bujh Gayi Har Subah To Kya,

                                               Rootha MujhSe Khuda To Kya,

                                               Ho Gaye Hum Judaa To Kya

There are times in life when a question pops up in mind “Why me “. The interesting thing about this question is it never comes to the mind when things are going absolutely fine in life, it comes up when we are in a dire straits. Those are the moments of extreme sadness. And we start thinking about what is going wrong. This leads to the other question in mind that moment “Who is playing on the Other Side”.

The first time I felt being in such kind of situation, I went to my mom and she consoled me by saying that “ Its god wish , Your destiny “ .I am an agnostic kind of person so I wasn’t fully convinced by her answer but  thought ok if mom is saying so it should be that way. Next time god will be on my side.

The next time when things didn’t go the way I wanted them to, I went to my sisters. I asked them the same question “Why me “. They came up with a better answer. They gave me a frank opinion that they didn’t feel I had worked hard to get the results desired by me and hence didn’t deserve it. I agreed completely to their thought and decided to work harder and smarter.

Its amazing how over a period of time the person I kept on asking the question “Why me “kept on changing. I feel it’s a natural progression. As we grow , the situations in which we feel that kind of sadness also differs  and hence the person with whom we feel at ease in discussing personal things too.

So the last time I felt this I went to friends. And they came up with one line “Wait for your time “ . I found this line very interesting and started giving more thought to it. I started recollecting the situations in past where this question had popped up in my mind.  I started to think was I actually in a bad situation or I was just over reacting to it.

I am a great believer of a thought that at every moment of life we have one topmost priority. This is something which I have experienced whole life and with time learnt to set the topmost priority right. Thinking about the bad times in past where I failed to achieve my topmost priority I realized that I was being too much optimistic in setting the priority itself. I learnt that the use of “ And “ is not at all a good thing in setting up the topmost priority. Say for e.g. “ I wish to work in core finance and stay in delhi “ . That is a wrong priority. It should be either “ I wish to work in core finance “ or “ I wish to stay in delhi” . Now the question which will be coming in your mind right now is that there are people who are actually living this dream, so you dreaming of that is not at all wrong. The answer to this question is that Yes there are people who are actually doing what I wanted to and that is MY FIRST ANSWER to the question “ Who is playing on the other side “.

MY SECOND ANSWER to this question is that I believe that we will pay for all the sins we committed in this life. No one will get away easily in life. Life is beautiful in this sense. I believe a lot in this.

MY THIRD ANSWER is that don’t jump into thinking that life has been bad to you by not giving you your topmost priority. This might sound optimistic answer but I guess there is no harm in waiting and letting time to unfold the consequences. There are times in life when we set the topmost priority in life wrong or give too much importance to a person/ happening and set it as topmost priority. At those moments we become too much emotional and start crying over it without even understanding that life wont stop at it and there is so much to look forward in life other than it.

I will like to end this post by just saying that we have no control on who is playing on the other side. But, we are in full control of ourselves, so the least we can do is to work towards achieving our priorities with honesty and be good to people on way to achieve them. The day we achieve our aim, we should have our family and friends by our side in celebrating the success and the day we fail to achieve it they should be there to share our sorrow also. If we are able to ensure this happens consistently then surely our life is a SUCCESS.