Zindagi Hai Dhuaa To Kya,
Bujh Gayi Har Subah To Kya,
Rootha MujhSe Khuda To Kya,
Ho Gaye Hum Judaa To Kya
There are times in life when a question pops up in mind “Why me “. The interesting thing about this question is it never comes to the mind when things are going absolutely fine in life, it comes up when we are in a dire straits. Those are the moments of extreme sadness. And we start thinking about what is going wrong. This leads to the other question in mind that moment “Who is playing on the Other Side”.
The first time I felt being in such kind of situation, I went to my mom and she consoled me by saying that “ Its god wish , Your destiny “ .I am an agnostic kind of person so I wasn’t fully convinced by her answer but thought ok if mom is saying so it should be that way. Next time god will be on my side.
The next time when things didn’t go the way I wanted them to, I went to my sisters. I asked them the same question “Why me “. They came up with a better answer. They gave me a frank opinion that they didn’t feel I had worked hard to get the results desired by me and hence didn’t deserve it. I agreed completely to their thought and decided to work harder and smarter.
Its amazing how over a period of time the person I kept on asking the question “Why me “kept on changing. I feel it’s a natural progression. As we grow , the situations in which we feel that kind of sadness also differs and hence the person with whom we feel at ease in discussing personal things too.
So the last time I felt this I went to friends. And they came up with one line “Wait for your time “ . I found this line very interesting and started giving more thought to it. I started recollecting the situations in past where this question had popped up in my mind. I started to think was I actually in a bad situation or I was just over reacting to it.
I am a great believer of a thought that at every moment of life we have one topmost priority. This is something which I have experienced whole life and with time learnt to set the topmost priority right. Thinking about the bad times in past where I failed to achieve my topmost priority I realized that I was being too much optimistic in setting the priority itself. I learnt that the use of “ And “ is not at all a good thing in setting up the topmost priority. Say for e.g. “ I wish to work in core finance and stay in delhi “ . That is a wrong priority. It should be either “ I wish to work in core finance “ or “ I wish to stay in delhi” . Now the question which will be coming in your mind right now is that there are people who are actually living this dream, so you dreaming of that is not at all wrong. The answer to this question is that Yes there are people who are actually doing what I wanted to and that is MY FIRST ANSWER to the question “ Who is playing on the other side “.
MY SECOND ANSWER to this question is that I believe that we will pay for all the sins we committed in this life. No one will get away easily in life. Life is beautiful in this sense. I believe a lot in this.
MY THIRD ANSWER is that don’t jump into thinking that life has been bad to you by not giving you your topmost priority. This might sound optimistic answer but I guess there is no harm in waiting and letting time to unfold the consequences. There are times in life when we set the topmost priority in life wrong or give too much importance to a person/ happening and set it as topmost priority. At those moments we become too much emotional and start crying over it without even understanding that life wont stop at it and there is so much to look forward in life other than it.
I will like to end this post by just saying that we have no control on who is playing on the other side. But, we are in full control of ourselves, so the least we can do is to work towards achieving our priorities with honesty and be good to people on way to achieve them. The day we achieve our aim, we should have our family and friends by our side in celebrating the success and the day we fail to achieve it they should be there to share our sorrow also. If we are able to ensure this happens consistently then surely our life is a SUCCESS.